4 D’s of Success
Very often, we have the “desire” to achieve something, but we don’t have the “determination” to go to the end. To do this, we need “dedication” and this means, to give our time systematically. To do this takes one fundamental thing: ‘DISCIPLINE’!
I would like to call these 4 words, the 4 D’s of success and if you can put them together, make them work together, no target in the world will be excluded during your lifetime! They are strongly connected and if you just take out one of the four, the other three can’t work anymore. It is like an Irish dolmen. If you take away a stone, all the others collapse on the ground. The “magic equilibrium” is gone!
Beautifully demonstrated and religiously implemented at the top school in Jalandhar City, Eklavya School jalandhar.
DESIRE: As human beings, from the time we were kids we like to have things. In particular the things that we don’t have! Every kid says: “I want this, I want that!” At the beginning they are simply objects. With the passing of time, they become expensive objects. But we can still have them. We just buy them, with our parents’ money or ours, when we grow up and go to work. But in growing up, there are other things that are not “objects”; that we cannot “buy”. We could have the desire to draw or paint, to play an instrument, to sing, to write or to play a sport, maybe soccer!
This is very easy, if our goal is to just cover the paper with lines, the canvas with a crust of colors, make noise with an instrument or with the voice, write some e-mail or….kick the ball around in a back yard. It will be very hard, if instead of the above, we would like to draw a portrait or paint like the great masters, play an instrument or sing. At this point, the desire is a great starting point! It is the ‘ancestral’ mechanism that makes us want things at the moment we don’t have. But, it’s just that – an instinct, a starting point. Unfortunately, the things listed above, are things that we can’t just take from someone else or buy. We need to use the second “D”.
DETERMINATION: If we just ‘want’ something and when it is hard to have it, at the first obstacle, we prefer to have something else, we will never achieve anything in life. We have to want something a lot and work hard to have it! Determination is a great weapon. It takes courage, to try again and again and again, no matter how many times. We have a goal on the horizon and it seems that the more we walk towards it, the more it stays on the horizon and doesn’t come closer. It will be always like that. We get closer, we have better and clearer vision, but we never reach the goal. It’s determination to get close that makes us better.
- Never give up.
- Challenge yourself, in doing something that is hard.
- Try to juggle 100 consecutive times. Obviously to do this, you need time, and here is where the third “D” comes in.
DEDICATION: To achieve something, anything, takes time. We need to dedicate time to the exercises, because it is only through repetition that we build the new neuron connections in our brain that makes us act perfectly under pressure. So, repetition, repetition and more repetition, to make movements become mechanically right under pressure. We will not act anymore. We will RE-ACT! When some object is thrown in our face from close, we don’t think that the object can hurt our eyes. There is no time to think! Our brain reacts mechanically and our hand immediately rises and protects our eyes. We are reacting, not acting after thinking. Repetition, repetition and repetition takes time, but not only time. It takes the fourth “D”.
DISCIPLINE: Almost all people, in repeating endless exercises, get bored. Even with little variations or trying to make them a little more fun, it’s still boring. It takes patience but more than that, it takes…..discipline! Not the kind of discipline that makes us ‘obey’. That is good, but it’s not that. It’s an internal discipline that pushes us to continue, to not give-up, and never take the eyes from the horizon, where the final target is. It comes a little closer but you never catch it. The concept of getting better is an endless effort. This explains why the more we know, the more we understand what we don’t know!
Discipline, is the glue that sticks desire, determination and dedication together. Without this glue, they don’t even come close to each other.